Condolence means an expression of sympathy spoken to the person who has lost a loved one. While most people speak these words to comfort the person who is mourning the loss of a parent, close relative, sibling or a friend, it is advised to offer the words of support and sympathy after a few days. The sympathy offered immediately after a loss may or may not be receptive because the grief doesn’t accept the comforting words at that moment.
Also, not everyone has an opportunity to visit the grief-stricken person or family during the funeral. Hence, sending a condolence card is a good option to reassure the grieving person or family. Even if we attend the funeral, sending a condolence card will help the person process the loss in a better way. A handwritten note is always a good option to let people know we care, which you can add it with a flower bouquet or suitable gifts. Here are a few examples that will give you ideas to write the condolence messages or to personalize these sentences further.
Formal Messages
The below messages can be used for the persons who are not very close to you. They could be a distant relative, neighbor, or a colleague. This messages can also be sent as a note along with flowers.
- i am extremely sorry for your loss, ‘Name of the person’. Do let me know if I can help you with anything.
- My heart and thoughts go out to you during these hard times ‘Name of the Person’.
- Dear ‘Name of the Person’, Please accept my deepest condolence.
- i am very sorry for your loss ‘Name of the Person’. May God give you the strength to fight this.
- So deeply saddened to hear for your loss. Know that you are in my prayers.
Loss of Parents
If you are attending a funeral of someone who has lost a mother or a father, it is impossible to console such a great loss. The best you can do is spend time with the person as they process through the grief, and later, you may express more comforting words using a card and flowers.
- Dear ‘Name of the Person’, what a great of a man your father was. He will always remain in our memories.
- My dearest, ‘Name of the Person’. Please accept my deepest condolences to you and your family. Your father/mother was truly an incredible person, and his loss is felt deeply.
- Dear ‘Name of the Person’, I know you were the closest to your father/mother, and I am very saddened for your loss. Remember his/her strength, and she/he will guide you to get through during this time of difficulty.
- Dear ‘Name of the Person’, I am sorry I couldn’t be there when you needed me the most. I will tell your mother/father very much. I know, he will always be with you and in our hearts guiding us.
- Dear ‘Name of the Person’, I am honored and blessed to have known your father/father. He was really a great blessing in my life, and I will miss him/her — my condolences.
Loss of Partner
Losing a spouse is equally painful as losing a parent or a sibling. The person mourning may not be easily comforted and may take a lifetime to process the grief. However, a little handwritten note and a condolence card will reassure the person that his/her friends and family are there to comfort him/her.
- My dearest, ‘Name of the Person’, May your heart and soul find peace and comfort.
- Your husband was a man of honor and kindness, dear ‘Name of the Person’. We all loved him and will miss him as much.
- Very sorry for your loss, ‘Name of the Person’. I know how tough it must be for you but do not hesitate to reach out to us.
- Your wife was the prettiest and the most generous lady we knew. She will always be missed.
- Your dearest wife was not just a great companion to you, but also a very wonderful human being having touched the lives of many. Do know my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Loss of Family Member
The closest and the first friends are from our families. Losing a cousin, aunt, uncle, or a grandparent could be very painful for many people. The bond formed with the family member will make it difficult. Hence, a few comforting words may be helpful in such a situation.
- Please accept my condolences ‘Name of the Person’, just know that I am here for you, please don’t hesitate to reach out, especially during this difficult time.
- Please remember that you are not alone… We are always here for you, ‘Name of the Person’.
- I can’t imagine the sadness you must be feeling from your loss. May the love of those around you help you through the days ahead.
- Dear ‘Name of the Person’, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
- She/He will always be remembered, as I will forever hold her in my heart. God rest her/his soul.
Loss of a Friend
A friend is often next to the family or more than a family member. Losing a friend is also very painful and will surely leave a void that you cannot fill. During such a hard time for a person who lost a best friend, you can be with her/him to help them move on. In case of your absence, you can always send wishes to reassure them.
- He/She can only be physically gone but live in our memories forever — my deepest condolence.
- I know he/she was your best friend and it will be tough to cope with such a big loss but remember we are all here for you.
- There are no words to comfort you right now, ‘Name of the Person’. But if there is anything to help you with your grief during this trying period, you know where I will be.
- Shocked and saddened to hear the news. May she/he rest in peace.
- My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family.